Addicted to gaming? How to know when to stop playing video games


Alrighty welcome back to #AskDanAnything
I’m Dan Munro, Confidence Coach and founder of Brojo
Relationship Coach And I’m going to be answering one of your
questions today Today’s question comes from a guy who wants
some help with video games so this video is for guys and girls who play
a lot of video games and they’re wondering whether or not it’s
healthy to do so it’s come up for a couple of my clients now
and I want to address it so one of them has written through to me and
said “What are your thoughts on guys playing video
games is it no different to just watching a movie
or reading a book or is it a huge waste of time because you’re
not accomplishing anything in the real world? I can’t decide if I should quit gaming altogether”
So first off I want to say that in terms of gaming – I’m no expert in video
gaming but to me there appears to be 3 main types
of video game players 1: is professional – someone who does it for
a living – they get paid to do it so you’re only a professional if you’re getting
paid to do it 2: casual – somebody who plays them maybe
1 or 2 hours per day on average like a hobby, it’s like hiking or watching
netflix they can take it or leave it
it’s just something they do when there’s down-time and there’s what I call
3: someone who is bordering on addiction they use it to escape from real life
they’re playing it more than a couple of hours per day
and we’re going to look at that particular type today
to help you figure out whether or not that’s you
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end of the video OK so how do you know when playing video games
is a problem? it’s like any other addiction
you look for the warning signs OK I used to work with people in addictions
quite a lot rehabilitation, and there’s some key warning
signs that are the difference between a casual user
and an addict one is your goals are neglected
so you have big dreams about socializing, about building a business
about developing your health and there is not enough time for you to do
these because of how much time you’re playing video
games how much energy your video games are taking
so you can see that there’s a risk that you’re using video games to get away from the discomfort
of working on your goals that would be a warning sign
another one would be when there’s other binge-like behaviours happening
so maybe while you’re playing you’re that classic guy
who’s got the headset, and he’s got the Dorito’s packet
and the chocolate, and the Mountain Dew and you’re just bingeing
and when you finish playing you jump on the porn
and you binge on that – you’re a Binger you’re somebody who does massive amounts of
harmful pieces of behaviour for a long period of time
so if you see patterns of bingeing in your life
and computer games seems to be just another one of those
another warning sign is that it’s disruptive you’re staying up really late at night and
it’s making you perform poorly at work you’re neglecting your friends
you’re neglecting going to gym and your health and like we said not working on your goals
your life would be a lot better if you weren’t spending so much time playing games and you
can clearly see that these are the warning signs of addiction
a casual piece of behaviour doesn’t cause these problems
and the biggest one, if you’re really not sure, is to ask yourself
“can I control myself?” are you sure that you can?
one way to test this is to stop for a month now you won’t die if you don’t play video
games for a month, right? and this can be a great way to prove to yourself
that you’re safe but don’t just stop for month
have the console and the games right there ready to play
and see if you can resist don’t tell anyone you’re stopping
don’t set up any accountability barriers and just see if you can just get by without
any feelings of withdrawal if it really makes you uncomfortable to stop
playing then we’re looking at an addiction pattern in your brain
if you’re a casual player the thing could sit there collecting dust and you’d just carry
on with your life so that’s how you know when it’s a problem
and if it’s a problem if that’s what you identify it as
then you’ve gotta treat it like a drug addiction it essentially is
if you’re getting a pleasure-reward from games if you’re getting a lot of dopamine hits and
adrenaline hits from the excite from the game or from just numbing out, not feeling anything
while you play for hours on end that’s essentially no different to cocaine,
heroin, weed, alcohol it’s causing the same neurochemical reaction
so probably the most effective way is 1: you gotta remove access
so at a time of strength get rid of your console give it away
block the apps that you’re using whatever it is to make it as hard as possible
for you to play games and in that time that you usually have set
aside for playing games pack that full of healthy activities
preferably social ones there’s a definite correlation between video
game addicts and social isolation video game addicts and Aspergers and other
conditions that make it difficult to socialise not impossible just difficult
so if you can replace video games with socializing or dance classes, hiking, hanging out with
friends just even going somewhere where there’s people
and hanging out and try to identify what it is that you were
using video games to avoid what was video games an escape from? that’s the thing you need to go towards and
deal with if you can go towards that and deal with it
video games can end up just being a casual pleasure rather than a drug
so that’s my thoughts if anything I’ve said about the reasons for
using video games concerns you then you’ve gotta listen to your brain and
body why does it concern you?
if it was healthy for you, you wouldn’t be getting that concern
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2 thoughts on “Addicted to gaming? How to know when to stop playing video games

  • December 25, 2018 at 2:53 am
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    Thank you Brojo!

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  • January 2, 2019 at 12:08 pm
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    What activities would you recommend doing in video game time thanks a lot

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